Haters gonna hate!

In our life, there are many people that float in and out of your universe.  You’ve got family.  You’ve got friends.  You’ve got well-wishers.  You’ve got co-workers.   All in all, you have everyday people.  Now, we all know that the choices you make will dictate the life you lead.  Also, the people you surround yourself with play a key role in your success as you rely on their strength.  But, it seems to me that the more you succeed, or the better your life gets, people tend to show their true colors.  Sadly, this also includes people you don’t know.   They’d rather show their displeasure instead of their support, or instead of minding their own business.  They embrace the hate, and hence are known as haters.

How can you tell if someone hates your life or is leery of your success?  It’s not always easy, but if you’re good at reading someone’s emotions, body language, or even if you’re good at reading someone’s aura (which is a rarity amongst people), the signs are always easy.  Ever notice that person that stares at you at random, just a little too long?  Then, you’ve encountered one.  You might think it’s something on your face, but that would mean everyone is looking, because it may very well be that noticeable.  People always like to size up others, mostly to make themselves feel better.  In all fairness, there’s no real reason to stare at anyone on the train or in public, especially that long.  Girls have been a big culprit of this.  Women always tend to stare at virtually every man that enters a setting, sometimes a little too long.  Heaven forbid you return the gaze, and then they quickly retreat their gaze.  They even try to scowl at you to make you look weird.  Now, this isn’t a cry from a rejected single guy.  I’ve had many a woman stare at my girlfriend, while I’m with her, for whatever reason.  In fact, she’s someone who can read a person’s demeanor and aura just from a quick interaction of sorts.  She’s keen on body language and words.  It always seems as if guys stare at her longer than necessary, in the worst way.  Some even come out and compliment her.  After all, she is quite fetching.  Though, they do so because they know they can’t have her or would like to, but wouldn’t know where to start.  Women just stare at her too long, sizing her up, and wondering what’s up with her.  One would say that they know she’s at peace, calm, and serenity with herself and generally loves to smile.  Since their lives have their own problems and don’t like all that cheerfulness, they can’t stand it.  She isn’t the only other person I know with this level of intuition as I have a best friend who can read people easily as well.  Ironically, he has a lot in common with my girlfriend.  Together, we are a decent group of friends.  Sadly, not all friends will be very happy with the arrangement. 

Friends and well-wishers also have a tendency to be hate-filled in some senses.  This usually comes to fruition upon securing something you’ve never had for a while that your friend is used to not seeing with you.  It could be a new job, or a new mate.  When it comes to guys, most of them don’t dig the new girlfriend bit, only when the girl wants to be part of the guys.  If a girl can be one of the guys, the guys can’t be themselves, nor do they want to be.  It could be latent jealousy or just general insecurity.  I brought my girlfriend around to talk to the guys and for some reason, after we returned from a short outing, no one spoke to her.  I know they didn’t know her, but she was willing to get to know them.  In fact, only one of them went out of their way to be friends with them outside of the group.  Funny enough, one of the females in the group took it to task to glare at her almost all the night.  She left early, and I got word through the grapevine (ironically, from a friend who also doesn’t like me dating) that she had some choice comments for me, angering me, heavily.  Upon confronting her on it, she backpedaled heavily, and almost fooled me into thinking she was the victim.  I haven’t tried to talk to her since, although her presence always has me on edge.  I didn’t piece it together until I realized she had an interest in me, but never acted on it due to her dating others.  It was also the reason I didn’t try to make a move on her.  People can be a pain, sometimes.

Even family can be a bother when it comes to hate.  When you’ve been spoiled rotten all of your life as an only child, either because you were bratty or did not receive proper parenting, your life reflects what you have gone through later on in your years.  Then, as soon as more siblings come your way, you begin to hate it because now you have to share.  Soon enough, you’re making the wrong decisions and striking out on your own.  Instead of moving away, you’re running away.  Then, you run back thinking you have security if someone cares.  Do you really learn anything?  And let’s say you have hated your siblings to the point of isolation.  When you aren’t sorry and think you can repair the damage, they see right through you.  You aren’t asking for help, you’re trying to drain them of their skills and resources out of hate.  You want them to be as miserable as you.  There are also times where others in the family are judgmental of the friends you have, even if they don’t know them.  If you’re dating someone, it’s a cross-examination of sorts.  In the end, they may never like them regardless of what they say or do.  Envy is a terrible thing to deal with.

Haters will always hate in life.  No one wants to be miserable or unhappy on their own.  They’d rather watch others feel pain so they feel better about themselves.  They’d rather you fail so they can tell you they told you so.  They would rather watch you get intimidated so they can control you.  So, how do you handle it?  There are a number of ways.  Ignoring people helps the cause.  Also, there’s confrontation, which isn’t well-received due to its troubling nature.  The best course of action no matter what you choose is to never let it tear you down.  You’ve done all the work in the world to be the best you can be.  No one deserves to tear down your walls for their own whim.  Stand tall and firm and they’ll break down or back down.  Haters will always be ready to hate what you do.  The best you can do is to love what you do and share it.  After all, misery loves company, but so does joy.